Is That Her?

“Deep within us — no matter who we are — there lives a feeling of wanting to be lovable, of wanting to be the kind of person that others like to be with. And the greatest thing we can do is to let people know that they are loved and capable of loving.”

While growing up there are always the romantic notions of relationships, picture-perfect dreams. Movies spoil our mind further, handsome men, beautiful woman, beauty and brain, ask and you shall get… You grow up and you realize finding the right partner is not picture-perfect… and the dream guy/ girl just does not pop up one fine day and all pieces of life fall together. The more u are grown, the more you are demanding of life (that we must be after all it is just one life), the more confusing it gets… there are questions galore and few answers. Sometimes wonder why did love and life not come with an answer key…

You meet the person who you think is all good but something is missing, you know it at times and other times you don’t know what is missing but you know that something is missing… or maybe nothing is missing but you just are not ready yet, you don’t feel it to commit.. you are not sure if this is it. endless debates you get into but no argument seem to convince you on any side… you try to ask many questions, look it through different angles but you still are not sure… you wonder am I being too silly and letting go of a good partner, am I too demanding and impractical…. another part tells you that you must not be hasty or compromise and then regret for a long time…

I must say here there is another category of people who always find everything perfect.. they live in a happy world… I envy them, they perhaps have the answers which I don’t have. Envy them also because I think I am more or equally intelligent but still do not have the answer. I know they have the answers… so what is it that they know and I do not? OR Is it that they don’t have the answers but they are lucky and god is playing tricks with me… I am no sinner or less noble than they are, I don’t think God is unfair… So this is not it, just that I need to solve this puzzle.

Coming Back To The Point

Should I be listening to intelligent words like “compromise and be practical” or just wait for that perfect moment when my heart flutters and say this is it? Should I listen to the mind or wait for those emotions which will sweep me off my feet?

Some intelligent people say emotions are a product of the mind and they will come eventually so let go of your fears and with total commitment give in and you will not regret, listen to your mind heart will follow… alas I am not that intelligent I am waiting for my heart to beat, hear to melt that I forget the mind and all just falls in place… where do I draw the line?

Time To Attempt An Answer

I need to drop the imaginary thresholds and picture-perfect notions of romance say bye to mills and boons… The reason I see plenty of people falling in love and falling out of it… when in love it is an adrenalin rush which one has of winning someone who you admire, it is all beautiful when you win and you prove yourself… you feel important and loved… but then familiarity breeds contempt or if not contempt it erodes that feeling of importance and being loved… you are equal now…

Love and such heightened emotion die with time, these are to be nourished and revived with different angles of relationships, one of the angle belongs to practicality and logic.. the answer lies in both sides of the argument, the practical and emotion…

For The Right Person

The practical side tells me that I should be able to spend quality time with the person and there has to be compatibility. The practical side tells me that I should be able to feel proud of this person, consider equal or higher.

The emotional side tells me that I should be able to feel good with the person. It need not be a vortex of emotion, of being pampered. All this cannot last long, time and familiarity erode the strength of any heightened emotion.

The practical side tells that nothing is tailor-made and there are few must-haves that I must list, if they are there I must let go off of the fear of being wrong… The must-haves to be on all 4 planes – Physical, material, intellectual & emotional. A threshold I need to decide in all planes

Whether I will know the answer exactly I doubt that, I need not compromise at all but I need to let go of some fear and commit… I just need to get rid of these doubts and fear…. do I have the answers still? I doubt it as it is no mathematical equation (wish it was), but a direction yes!

This one is dedicated to a friend who is seeking answers, so I thought let me attempt an answer from my side, it is an attempt of theory from my perspective.

“When we’re looking for compassion, we need someone who is deeply rooted, is able to bend and, most of all, embraces us for our strengths and struggles.”

Note From the Editor-in-Chief

P.S. I Owe My Life To You.

For the majority of us, there is little good left in the world. However, even the worst sufferer is capable of showing compassion. No matter how little ways but such compassion is competent in making a remarkable impact in the lives of others. Showing kindness is never overrated and this real-life true conversation is an ode to humanity wherein two strangers stumble upon each other and strike a soul connection while sharing an extraordinary rapport that is beyond words. The girl is experiencing Ostracism and hence succumbs to suicidal thoughts while this gentleman is struggling to cope with his own chaotic world. They get indulged in exchanging several insightful conversations encompassing Love, Life, Spirituality, Humanity, transcending beyond their respective beliefs, age gap and maturity level, and the above excerpt is one out of such beautiful conversations.

Any guesses about these two strangers?